Remember the Little Things

Obligatory is Just That
Doing something special for your special someone on only the obligatory days is the "table stakes," the minimum to get into the game. What are the obligatory days? Valentine's Day, Birthday, Christmas. All that gifts on those days do is give your special someone "bragging rights." "Look what he/she got for me!" Only doing something on the obligatory days is the domain of Relationship Losers.

The Unexpected Times
This is where you earn real "relationship points." To be a Relationship Winner, you had better work on making relationship points, at the minimum of twice a week--daily is much better. To earn a relationship point, you do not have to spend money, better yet, spend your time. For guys, your unexpected kindness could be as simple as making the bed, getting up first and making the coffee, washing the dishes...actually anything considered "domestic" is a great place to start. Also, for your special someone; write a poem or leave a love note. In this area, there are no rules, just great ideas. For the gals, this is your specialty so I do not need to go into details. However, remember that it is what he wants, not what you want.

Small Gestures Daily
If you can, daily endeavor to offer a small and unexpected gesture of love, respect, and appreciation. These little things will go a long way. Each is another Relationship Bank Deposit that collectively, over time, will add up to a huge relationship nest egg. And trust me, stuff happens, so one day you'll be grateful that you did all the small things.