Need that Lovin' Feeling?

You know that you need that lovin' feeling, but...why aren't you getting it? Perhaps it is because you are only putting out what you want?

Receive What You Send

Come on, let's be honest with one another...can we? If you treat your partner like crap, what do toy expect? But you say, "I'm treating my partner great!" Are you? Your partner's perception is his or her reality. If you are doing things for them (making relationship bank deposits) that they do not see as useful or valuable--guess what? They're not! If you do something for another person that you might like them to do for you; that's nice. But the act is of very little value, if any, to the receiving person. Why? Because you are not doing for them, something that they value. And then you get all pissed off because they are not appreciative of your gesture. Wow, what did you expect?

Ask First, Do Second

Yep, ask your partner what they need, and/or hold as being valuable. Then do that, not what you have been doing. It is simple as that--trust me. But wait! You still think they really like what you like--you've got to get a clue. Their perception is their reality, and there is no way that you will change their reality following your current course. Better, work to develop strategies and tactics that will allow your partner to reveal to you what it is that they really want. Think about it--you have nothing lose.

Wishing you all the best in gettin' that lovin' feeling...Ed