Relationship Bank Deposits: One of the important elements of successful relationships is the Relationship Bank Deposit. Interestingly enough, too many folks want to make withdrawals before they make deposits--this is not you, I hope. Following the age-old idea of giving first and receiving later (I know, instant gratification is today's standard for so many), allows you to bank some relationship points for a relationship rainy day. This idea is crucial because you know that there will be conflict some time down the road.
I have found it to be true in my relationship with my wife of 35 years, Regina, that when I give first (living in a glass house, I admit my imperfection here) she responds quite well.
Talking to the guys briefly; women are wired to nurture. As such they tend not to ask for what they need as much as they perhaps should. So your job is to preempt by doing things for them they would not normally expect of you--thereby making an unrestricted Relationship Bank Deposit.
Gals, your job is to not read anything into these acts of kindness; but to just enjoy. For women this is not always easy as they are quite used to the male/female quid pro quo; dinner for bedding.
Here is where this creates value for your life; just do nice things for others and it will come back to you. And do lots of nice things for the person with whom you enjoy a romantic relationship. Just do this and I guarantee your relationship will be even better.
Plan today for the weekend, Ed Rigsbee
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This new blog is a great idea, its also very pink.
ReplyDeleteI don't fully get what you mean by "unrestricted" R.B.D. What's unrestricted about it and what does that do for me?
My my reading, unrestricted means "without strings attached". Giving for the sake of giving, for the sake of making your partner happy - instead of giving in hopes of having something reciprocated. Good stuff, Ed.
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