Are You Oblivious to the Clues?
One of my favorite cartoons says it all. Visualize the husband, with kind of a duh look on his face coming home, as he opens the door to enter--a spear slams into the door. The caption reads, "While Jim though their argument was settled at breakfast, Sally still has some unresolved issues."
Honestly, don't you feel this way about your sweetie sometimes? Sure you do. So what's a person to do--give up? Let's face it you really do know if your communication is being received, it is just easier to stay in your comfort zone and be oblivious--and yes, this goes for both guys & gals.
What Are You Really Trying To Say?
Communication is an interesting phenomenon, there is the sender and there is the receiver--and rarely does the exact message sent get received in accordance with the sender. Nothing new here--sure, I know. However, the real issue is do you give a rat's ass about the other? If you do, you'll go to the effort to get them to feed back what you sent so you can determine if the message was received anywhere close to what was intended.
In today's hurry, hurry, hurry, world--communication truly suffers. Decide to be part of the solution rather than the problem and take the time to be certain of how your communication is received--otherwise you'll be like Jim in the cartoon with the duh look on your face, never quite understanding why your sweetie is ticked off.
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ReplyDeleteFrom my observation the personal relationship with a spouse/family is one of the most important relationships for a man or woman. It seems the consideration, understanding and communication is non plus within the family or familiar at times when we are bogged with our business, running kids in 10 directions etc. People tend to give their business friends (associates) the time, effort, consideration & communication. Of couse we had a good nights sleep when we see them. When the person they married, live with etc is the last person they give "time" to them. By the end of a day the time they have exhausted to the business corporate world all day, when they finally get home they are just "too tired" exhausted when they come home.
Walking in the door is "Safe" shoes off, off with the tie, jacket, pour a glass of wine.
The spouse (male or female) has had their day too and needs to talk, laugh, touch base. We all need "re-asssurance" in our personal and professional world. When we are in "Balance" then our life flows. When one or the other is imbalanced the effects are felt both in personal and professional.
Life is actually very simple "we all need validation". Even the dog gets more attention then some spouses.
Elaine May-Medlin