What better time than Easter is there to resurrect your damaged relationship?
Some believe that resurrection is possible and some do not. Easter has traditionally been the celebration of the resurrection of Christ. Historically we know he died because one of the Roman soldiers pierced Jesus' side with a spear to ensure his death. Some of his disciples then buried his body in a new tomb; sealed and guarded by order of Pilate. On Easter morning some women and apostles went to Jesus' tomb, expecting to find his body. However, the tomb was empty, and the angel at the tomb told them, "He is not here; he has risen!"
My question for you today is not religious but secular. Do you believe that it is possible to resurrect your dead or dyeing relationship? The answer to this question is the core.
The Glass Egg
In the late 1980s I experienced the Lifespring seminars, which were a byproduct of the earlier EST movement. While the seminars were intense and time consuming, I still value the experience to this day. Upon graduation from my advanced class, my group leader, Nancy Morris, gave each member of the group a glass egg. The egg was to symbolize, resulting from the experience, my rebirth as a human being. For over 20 years that egg has sat on a bookshelf in my office as a reminder.
To many, Easter also represents the welcoming of spring time, and the compulsory spring cleaning. During spring cleaning most cast off needless possessions and the dirt and grime accumulated over winter—but what about in your head? Might you be clinging to useless old mental conversations about loved ones?
Emotional Spring Cleaning
How about making tomorrow, Easter 2010, your mental and emotional spring cleaning day? Perhaps Easter holds for you an ingrained religious experience? If so, embrace your beliefs—and also cast off your erroneous relationship issues!
I will admit that in the human relationship dynamic; when one wants a negative result and one wants a positive result, the negative generally wins. Yet, when two persons have been emotionally wounded by one another, there is still room for relationship resurrection.
1. The first step is to reconnect with early feelings of love or emotional attachment.
2. The second step is to remember what it was about the other that you found attractive.
3. The third, fourth, and fifth steps are to communicate, communicate, and communicate.
Cast off your emotional junk for Easter 2010 and talk. Please do not talk about all the hurt and pain; you’ve already discussed that over and over and over with your friends. Rather, talk about the possibility, about rebuilding trust, about moving forward. If the other person was good enough to hook up with in the first place, might they still be good enough for you to keep?
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