Is Sex the Glue to a Relationship?

This question gets asked quite frequently; is sex the glue to a relationship? If you are 20 and are experiencing raging hormones, you would most likely answer; absolutely! However, if you are 60 your answer might be something like; sure it is important but not the kind of glue that holds relationships together for the long-term.

Sex and Glue Tact-ability

Glues have varying adhesion factors. I like to use Gorilla Glue for my wood working projects because it is both water proof and holds forever. However the glue that 3M uses on their Post-it Notes is very different as it has a very low adhesive factor. If sex is like relationship glue, then which glue is it—the stuff that sticks forever or that lets go at the slightest tug?

Sex as the Mitigating Factor

Sex is an age appropriate relationship glue; more on the onset and less in the long-haul. If you are younger the more important question is one of relationship tenure. If you are in a “fun” relationship and you have no expectations of the relationship’s long-term viability, then yes—sex is glue. And, if you are looking for a long-term relationship, sex is an important mitigating factor. While the relationship will most likely fail without sex, you must realize that sex will not bind a misfit relationship forever. Sex as “glue” will only last so long.

Relationship Gorilla Glue

The true glue that binds any relationship is trust, courtesy, and mutual-respect—aka, love. Without these elements, even porn-star quality sex will only take you so far. The novelty will wear off. Conversely, good healthy loving relationships do enjoy sex as one of the success building blocks.

My final vote on sex as the relationship glue: kinda.

Happy loving…