Has this ever happened? A friend compliments you on your clothing and you say, This old thing? Rather than accept the compliment, you diminish your friend's attempt to show they care and offer you future compliments. Even if the outfit is in fact old, you could just as easily have said, Thanks, it is quite old but one of my favorites. The result? The other person would be able to feel good about what they said, as well as you would have.
What's Wrong With Accepting a Compliment?
In my opinion, one should always graciously accept a compliment form another. Gosh, why not? When you refuse to accept compliments, you are really telling others they are WRONG and INSIGNIFICANT--bummer! People that (now don't get mad) refuse to accept compliments generally suffer from low self-esteem. Okay, so I said it. The important idea here is this: if you allow yourself to play in a place of low self-esteem, how great of a romantic partner will you be?
Take the Compliment and Smile
Show that person, that matters to you, that you are worthy of a serious relationship by gladly accepting their compliments--and not trying to read needless chatter into those compliments. Accepting compliments will also help a person to grow emotionally. For many, accepting compliments is not easy--I'll give you that. However, it is time to leave your place of comfort and grow. Stretch yourself by accepting all complements with a smile and a simple, Thank you. Do this and everyone around you will be happier.
What's Wrong With Accepting a Compliment?
In my opinion, one should always graciously accept a compliment form another. Gosh, why not? When you refuse to accept compliments, you are really telling others they are WRONG and INSIGNIFICANT--bummer! People that (now don't get mad) refuse to accept compliments generally suffer from low self-esteem. Okay, so I said it. The important idea here is this: if you allow yourself to play in a place of low self-esteem, how great of a romantic partner will you be?
Take the Compliment and Smile
Show that person, that matters to you, that you are worthy of a serious relationship by gladly accepting their compliments--and not trying to read needless chatter into those compliments. Accepting compliments will also help a person to grow emotionally. For many, accepting compliments is not easy--I'll give you that. However, it is time to leave your place of comfort and grow. Stretch yourself by accepting all complements with a smile and a simple, Thank you. Do this and everyone around you will be happier.
We are all so programmed to believe that being proud of ourselves is a bad thing, and that being noticed is equally is bad, that we find ourselves at apologizing when someone compliments us! The truth is we are allowing that person to give us a gift, and ourselves to feel gratitude. Gratitude for praise is something uncomfortable for most of us because we then feel we are giving them power over us. No one likes that! But they only have the power we give them. If we accept that compliment, like you say, acknowledging the praise, but speaking our truth at the same time, we are able to retain our sense of our own truth and not lose power.
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